People Don’t Realize You’re Struggling With Depression, Because You Do These 16 Things To Conceal The Pain

By Holly Riordan

1. You use humor to cover up your pain. You make self-deprecating jokes about how you don’t have any friends and about how you want to die. But no one realizes that you’re serious, because you always say it with a smirk on your face.

2. You make excuses when people ask about you. If someone tells you that you look like crap, you won’t admit that you’ve been under severe stress. You’ll say that you’ve just been tired. Or that your allergies have been bothering you.

3. You tell yourself you’re overreacting. You don’t want to complain to your friends about your life, because you’re worried you sound like a brat. Like a baby. Like an entitled little bitch.

4. You leave such little signs. You leave a miniature trail of your depression. You repost articles about heartbreak and breakups and death. You listen to music about suicide and self-harm. But no one reads too much into it.

5. You’re in a healthy relationship. If you’re in a serious relationship, everyone will assume that you’re doing well. That a happy relationship equals two happy humans without a care in the world.

6. You keep your emotions to yourself. You write out lengthy text messages for friends and exes, but delete them before sending. Then you write melancholy lyrics and slam poetry, but you never post them online. You keep your feelings to yourself, even though they’re begging to be released into the world.

7. You wear a false smile. You don’t want to be an outcast. You don’t want to draw attention to yourself. You just want to fit in. That’s why you always pretend you’re happy. So that no one pays extra attention to you.

8. You aren’t a stereotype. You don’t walk around in all black clothing and thick eyeliner. You wear bright colors and keep your hair brushed and your body fit. The way you look on the outside doesn’t match how you feel on the inside.

9. You look happy online. You upload gorgeous selfies and post statuses about all the parties you’ve been attending. You seem happy and successful online, so everyone assumes that means you’re happy IRL, as well.

10. You refuse to see a therapist. You know you need one. You know it would help. But you don’t have the money or the time or the willpower to actually visit one. So you suffer alone.

11. You casually talk about tragedies. When you actually open up about your issues, you act like they’re no big deal. Like they don’t make a difference to you. Like you haven’t been crying over them every night for a week.

12. You’ve learned how to lie well. If someone asks why you didn’t answer their texts or attend class, you don’t let them know it was because you spent the entire day in bed. You tell them you were out having the time of your life.

13. You keep secrets. When you engage in self-destructive behaviors, you do it on your own time. No one realizes that you’ve been getting drunk every night after work or have been having unprotected sex with strangers, because you keep it to yourself.

14. You cry alone. When you’re upset in public, you’ll find a private bathroom to bawl your eyes out in. And before you leave, you’ll splash your face with water and adjust your make-up. Your friends won’t even know the difference when they see you again.

15. You put other people first. Even if you have a close friend you can open up to, you won’t let her know about your problems until she’s told you all about herproblems. And by the time she’s finished ranting, you don’t feel like saying anything anymore.

16. You’re fully functional. You still work. You still eat. You still sleep. You still see your friends. You do everything a twenty-something should be doing, so no one realizes anything is out of the ordinary.

What It’s Like To Be In Love When You Have Anxiety

By Lauren Jarvis-Gibson


When you have anxiety, you can’t mask it. You can’t wish it away, or pray it away. It becomes this part of you that you can’t seem to control. And it can get out of control. Kind of like love.

When you fall in love when you have anxiety, someone telling you that they love you doesn’t feel like it’s enough. For most people, to hear someone say those three words is reassuring. It’s supposed to be comforting and soothing. But anxiety has a way of making anything scary. And anxiety has a way of making love seem impossible.

Falling in love can be scary for anyone, especially falling in love for the first time. But when you have anxiety, the fears can grow. The uneasiness can take over. And your worries can sometimes overpower the feeling of love.

It doesn’t matter how good your partner is to you. It doesn’t matter how much they assure you they will never leave you. It doesn’t matter how many times they hold you through the night while your brain is on overdrive. It doesn’t matter how much they tell you that they love you.

When you have anxiety, you can’t just shut off. You can’t just turn off your mind to focus on the good. You can’t just hide from your worries.

So you worry. You worry about your future. About your future with your partner. You worry if your anxiety is driving them away. You worry if it’s too much for them to handle. You worry about tomorrow, and the next day and the next day.

No matter how good of a place you are in and no matter how happy you are, anxiety can creep up on you at any time. It can show up in the middle of night or at 5 am the next morning. It can pop up during a perfect dinner date, or midway through a goodnight kiss. It seems like at times, that it is always there. Mocking you. Mocking your happiness.

It’s wonderful to fall in love. It’s beautiful and incredibly magical. But when you have anxiety, it takes some work getting adjusted. It takes work to even be happy when it keeps following your every move.

When you are in love with anxiety, you find yourself in a constant worry. You worry about if they are the one for you. If it’s destiny or fate. You worry if they will leave you. You worry because it’s something you have always done. But if it’s truly love and if this person is right for you, they aren’t going anywhere. And you need to remind yourself of that. 

Loving someone when you have anxiety is hard. It’s a journey full of bumps and dark corners. But, if the love is true and real, anxiety isn’t going to chase that love away. Anxiety isn’t going to overpower the love that was so carefully crafted for you and your partner.

Don’t let anxiety win the race. Let love in and let love win this time. Anxiety is a terrible beast, but it’s not ever going to be a match for the power and greatness of true love.

This Is How We Fail Those Who Are Actually Depressed

By Abhik Chatterjee

In life, we often tend to insensitively label situations and term incidents loosely without having ever encountered them ourselves in real life. And it pains me that we laugh and trivialize issues that we consider insignificant.

After the recent passing of Chester Bennington, there were several people scoffing, calling him a coward, terming him gutless, sneering at how he had taken the easy way out. Well, I do know of two things in my lifetime:

a) We use the word “Depression” too loosely.

b) Depression is not exactly a cakewalk to deal with. I will know because I have suffered from it and have been counseled about it.

Every time we have a fight with someone, we are suddenly depressed. When we do not get a promotion, we are depressed. When our favorite team loses, we are depressed. We have trivialized this word beyond understanding, using it for every little bump that we face in our lives. And when we cross those obstacles, we claim to have overcome “depression”. What a pile of horse-shit!

I am appalled at the lack of insensitivity there is towards mental health. I am disgusted at the fact that people suffering from it are looked down upon and called “mad”. Here are some of the things that I have heard in my life-time:

a) “Come on deal with it. Be strong.”

b) “Don’t worry, you will get over it.”

c) “Why are you acting like a girl? Stop crying”

Really? Is that what we think this is? Acting like a girl? Not brave enough? Not dealing with it?

It is mayhem and chaos in the minds of those who deal with it and I wish and pray that no one has to. It is an endless vacuum that one goes into, thinking about repercussions and reliving a trauma over and over again in a loop until you suffocate.

So the next time, you call someone a “coward” and ask him/her to “go out with friends to get over it”, try and educate yourself on sensitivity. And encourage the patient to open up instead of passing useless advise.

Yes, it is an illness. Accept it.

Treat those who suffer from it in the same manner that you would treat anyone suffering from physical illness.

And yes, just like any other serious sickness, it can be fatal.

Be kind. Please, be kind.

To The Person I Date Next, This Is What I’d Love To Tell You About My Anxiety

By Kirsten Corley

Relationships are nearly impossible for me. And I refuse to blame anxiety for it.

But the honest truth before we even date, I’m going to analyze every word and text and interaction like it’s something to be studied. I worry. I’ve seen so many relationships start and end so quickly without any explanation and I’m left pointing at myself thinking it’s me who is flawed.

I overthink and overanalyze everything. It gets to a point where I’m the one ruining something before it even begins out of fear.

It’s ironic the fears I have of something ending almost manifests itself into a reality. I know this. But I can’t help it either.

My mind takes off and I just follow it’s destructive lead doing my best to control what I can.

I won’t talk about it at all.

I won’t sit you down and tell you this is what I have, this is what I live with.

It’s simply a part of who I am that doesn’t need explaining because as you get to know me you’ll begin to see it a little more.

It’ll reveal itself in texts messages and responses that come at you like rapid fire. It’ll reveal itself in how punctual I am or the obvious stress lines across my forehead if we are late and the reminder not to speed if I’m the one driving.

It’ll reveal itself in the to do lists, that I almost always complete and the calendar I have booked for weeks.

You’ll see it when I wake up almost every day at the exact same time minutes before my alarm even sounds.

You’ll see it on the nights I’m tossing and turning and you just pull me in to try and get me to go back to sleep.

You’ll hear it in the scenarios I play out to you about my friends and how I wonder if they are mad at me for something and how my mind won’t be at ease until I apologize. And even if you tell me it’s unnecessary I’m going to do it anyway.

You’ll see when we go out, most the time I’ll be fine. But every once in awhile on an off night, I might drink more than I should. I’ll wake up the next day not remembering much, wanting to apologize and understanding if you want to end this thing.

And you’re going to look at me confused because I know all it was, was a bad night. But I’ll spend the next three days beating myself up over the fact I let myself get like that.

Most the time it’s going to seem like I have it all together. But it’s almost like I have it “too together” if there’s ever such a thing. My grades were excellent in school and I still read and try and learn something new often. I’m an overachiever in every sense of the word. I enjoy being the best at things. Not to make others look bad but my self-worth is defined by achievements and doing well. So I’m going to be pushing myself sometimes completely over the edge. And it’s in those moments where I’m going to need you. Because when something doesn’t go as planned and I completely fall apart.

That’s the ugliest side of anxiety when I show you a weakness I don’t like anyone seeing.

In my head are this constant stream of negative phrases. And you won’t notice the lack of confidence I have at first. In the beginning, I’ll hide that well but as you get to know me, you’ll see there’s vital insecurity within myself and no matter how much you compliment me I’m my own worst enemy.

I’m going to need reassurance sometimes. Just that little boost, you aren’t leaving, you still care, you are thinking of me. And I know that sounds desperate but sometimes the littlest things send me off in a world of my own trapped in thoughts that aren’t reality.

Anxiety tells me a shit load of lies that I don’t want to believe. But sometimes I do.

So I’ll explain to you this is what I’m thinking right now and why. And you aren’t going to understand. Sometimes it isn’t about understanding but just listening.

It’s not always about finding a solution but just being there with me for the problem even if it’s one I created myself.

I worry about people leaving a lot. And when that happens just tell me you aren’t going to. That will mean everything to me.

It’s in those moments where I’m going to push you away from that I actually need you most.

I don’t like seeming weak or needy. Anxiety makes me feel like I am.

And just as I have learned to live with it and function, the person I end up dating will also.

And if you can accept this about me and love me through it, in return I’ll give you the best of myself.

There’s so much more to me than my anxiety. It’s just a small part of who I am but not all of me. And I hope whatever it is I lack I make up for in other areas. Because I’ll always try unbelievably hard when it comes to everything in my life and a relationship is something I’d hold to that same standard.

This New Anti-Anxiety Cannabis Milk is Coming to a Store Near You Soon

There is now a completely legal way to enjoy the benefits of CBD in a refreshing drink. Relax by Rawligion is made from 100% organic hemp milk that contains CBD oil.

It claims to help soothe anxiety, relieves pain, stress, and also helps as a sleep aid.
As well as CBD oil, Relax contains hemp seeds, cashews, dates, coconut oil, vanilla, and water.
The product is the brain child of Michael Isted, a psychotherapist and development consultant for Rawligion, who decided the world needed a drink that contains all the benefits of CBD.

CBD doesn’t have any psychoactive properties, so it won’t get you high, but it will supply you with all the goodness of it’s source – hemp.

You don’t need to get high from CBD oil to feel the benefits of it’s properties. CBD oil reacts with the body’s endogenous cannabinoid system, which controls the body’s homeostasis, which has a positive effect on your mood, sleep, pain, immune response, and hormone regulation.

CBD is gaining a reputation not just as a cannabis extract, but as a new, innovative medicine. On November 1st, CBD will turn into a recognized medicine when a new legislation is passed.

Does is work?

Made with vanilla, coconut oil, and of CBD oil, Relax taste like almond milk with a cannabis aftertaste, but will it relax you like it says it will?

Rawligion’s founder John Taba says that it does. He says they have had reports from customers feeling calm and tranquil.
Taba has also commented on the carefulness you should adopt to get the full benefits of the drink:
“It’s subtle, but so far all who have consumed the drink mindfully have felt the desired effect. I don’t mean to use the word mindfully in a hipster way, just more a case of someone actually paying attention to how they feel before hand, during drinking and afterwards instead of having it as a drink to wash down a meal with!”
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